My husband and I have been trying to decide whether or not to have children. He is 34 and has been trying to deal with the AS for 4 years now. His L4-L5 vertebrae are fused already. He can only bend over about 45-degrees. He is afraid that he won't be able to help me take care of the kids or play with them. To play with our 1-1/2-year-old niece, he has to lie on the ground on his belly, proped up on his elbows or on his side, proped up on one arm. He just plays video games with our 6-year-old nephew.
Any advice on what we should do? Any ideas on how we can take care of the kids together? Will he be able to pick them up? Change diapers?
And am I going to have to be taking care of my husband AND my kids? (He almost can't put on his own socks - and sometimes his underwear! He hasn't been able to tie his shoes on his feet in 3+ years.) When he is in pain, he is grumpy, sometimes to the point of being mean... how will that affect our kids?
We have talked about adopting so that our kids won't have a chance of getting AS, but I really doubt any agency would let us adopt...
Thank you in advance for any help you can give us!