i understand the pain you are feeling, guitarman. i'm having it, too. if you haven't read it already, read the thread "a new day". that's my description of how it feels waking up in the morning.
when i read your posts, it reminds me of conversations my husband and i have had. my husband fixes things, too, just not in the same way as you. you handle situations, he handles things. with a welder, hammer, saw and his hands he can make or fix anything. it was very, very hard for him when i first started having pain and limping around and wanted to talk to him about it. his eyes glazed over and he said "what do you want me to do". i didn't understand that he wanted to "fix" me and he didn't understand that i just wanted him to listen. he had to come to terms with not being able to fix to me. i think maybe you are going to have to do the same thing. this isn't something you can fix. however, once you can accept that you can't fix it, there are things that you can do.
once we got past that stage and came to the understanding that he couldn't fix me and i wasn't asking him to do so, then we got to practical solutions that helped me. things like going to doctors visits or researching meds, moving things in the house to make it easier for me, finding me a good walking stick, even changing the vehicles we drove to make it easier on me.
also, on some of the other threads recently there has been discussion of other pain relieving over the counter products that are helping some get temporary relief to get to sleep, dressed, etc. give those a read and maybe you will find something that gives you a little relief for a short time. i personally feel like the character in the movie ghost rider right now. a skeleton set on fire. the trunk portion of the skeleton anyway. my skull isn't on fire right now, thank goodness but my jaw keeps popping in and out of place. i wish someone could hose me down. sigh. i keep hoping i'll wake up tomorrow and things will be better.