Oh Elaine, I feel for you. I understand the "full plate" syndrome. I don't have any quick fix answers for you, just my sympathy.
Hey, I have an idea...maybe if we smash those plates "they" can't pile anything else on them? Suppose that'll work???????
I truly do believe that we are not given more than we can handle, whether we believe it at the moment or not. You must be an incredibly strong woman.
Keep your chin up,