Girlfriends, thank you so much for your opinions. I was kind of taken aback when he asked if he could do a breast exam. His nurse was there, and I kind of think he does this all the time. You know, they put you in the room, give you a little gown and tell you to strip to the waist -- kind of like a car salesman, taking you to his ofice to pressure you and separate you from your wits. When he asked to do the breast exam, I couldn't think why it would be necessary, but I thought "surely" he wouldn't ask unless it was necessary. However, later it just struck me as strange, and I wondered if anyone else had this experience. By the way, the only other "structural" tests he did were to have me look over both shoulders, and to bend forward while he held my gown in the back... that gave me the creeps, too.
Other red flags for me were that his questions were phrased to get my current level of pain, without concern for my history (helllloooo???? this is a chronic, multi-phased disorder -- history counts!)... just so happened that when I saw him for the first time, I was in non-flare and on anti-inflamm drugs, so tests didn't show much. History includes SI pain, lumbar & thoracic stiffness, iritis, B27+, hip and knee involvement, sleep disorder, night sweats -- yet he failed to record these and actually shushed me when I tried to interject. Oh -- and he actually told me it was a "man's disease," so I probably had something else, but he didn't say what -- even though I've been diagnosed by another rheumy in another state! He said he would be "hard pressed to prove AS in a court of law."
OMG! Reading it now, I can't figure what my hesitation was! I should have fired him the first day! I actually only saw him 2x, so have only wasted 2 months.
I started the ball rolling yesterday to get a new rheumy. I've never had to fire a doc before, but I have to tell you the sense of relief I have, at knowing I'll not be seeing him again, is immense! I'm glad for your support, and I know this will be a positive step as I go through this process of finding a new someone to be my partner in health.
The new doc comes with a recommendation from someone my mom knows, so I'm crossing my fingers. I asked my PCP to send chart notes to his office yesterday, and I should find out within a week if he will have room for me in his practice. PCP says his office is typically very busy, and he doesn't accept many new patients. I'm hoping that is a good sign. If I don't get in, there are a few others in town to try.
I'll keep you posted. Thanks again for the support and confirmation. This is an awesome group!