Spondylitis Association of America Forums General Discussion Women Only Message Board a little embarassing but here goes...

I was wondering if any of the women have experienced this. I was having sex with my fiance. it was the usual nothing crazy or anything. when we were done i went to the bathroom and when i tried to get up i couldnt. i have this horrible pain on the left side of my back. right where my SI joints are. its hard to walk or move at all. it started to feel a little better yesterday so we had sex again now every time he enters me it feels like he is hitting a nerve or tendon or something that is connected to my SI joint or that area of my back and it hurts like hell. i have never had this happen before. anyone experience this? my doc had said at one time the pain in my SI joints might me gynecological i am thinking maybe she is right. she said something about if my uterus is tilted it could be pulling on those ligaments in my back.

Hi! I experience pain in the SI area after having intercourse with my husband. It is not immediate, but by an hour later I am feeling it. I also have a tilted uterus, but was never told anything about that. My SI joints have been really flared up in the last year, so maybe that's why. It is very frustrating, I don't have much advice for you. Only that I have been going through this as well. Kera

Kera
thanks for the reply i thought i was crazy lol. it is very frustrating i try to avoid at least once a week but i dont want him to think i am not attracted to him its just very painful. i go to the doc tomorrow so i will be talking to her about this for sure. she has told me before that when your uterus is tilted back that it could be pulling down the ligaments in my SI joints or draggin along them when i move. Ask you GYN about it and see what he/she says. it is the first time i have heard about that as well

I've been single since almost 2 years before my AS diagnosis, so my sex life is nonexistant. But - for about the last year we were together, I had a really hard time after/during sex. Either my SI joint area would become really painful, or afterwards I couldn't walk because my hips were so bad, or my muscles would be in spasm and not relax. And we weren't trying any acrobatics either...

I have to say that I'm almost thankful that I don't have any pressure to have sex. It would be so stressful to think about having to because it seems like it would be SO painful. I can completely understand the not wanting to make your partner feel rejected, and I really wish you the best of luck and hope you can find a way to be intimate and comfy.

By the way - if you think that post was embarrassing... A few months ago I took an anatomy book in to my rheumatologist so I could show him exactly where my crotch hurt and what muscles were painful and where I wanted a steroid shot for enthesitis! He handled it so well - only blushed a little. Although as he gave me the shot he kept muttering, "I think this might be something for your gynecologist..."

lol i can just imagine!!! i am hoping my doc tomorrow wont look at me too funny. its a female doc though so maybe it wont be so bad.

When you say your SI joint hurts, does that go into your pelvis area. The other part that hurts me is when my legs are spread. That's embarrassing too.
Amy

its the joints that connect your lower spine to your pelvis

Without going into graphics, I have found that there are certain positions that hurt and will make it difficult for me to move afterwards. I am lucky in the fact that I have been married to a loving guy for more than 12yrs. We have tried new positions that work much better for me, I might still have a little pain afterwards; but if I have to chose-I am not giving up sex!!!

I have had pain with sex for the last 6-8 months. Sometimes I can barely walk for days. Everyone knows in my office what I have been up to becaused they asked and I told them. Now my husband is afraid he will hurt me. I will get over it, just takes a little longer. lol