Spondylitis Association of America Forums General Discussion Men Only Message Board Need advice on dating

Storm, also my experience with online dating services is that they tend towards "two dimensional" superficiality. Also, when I talk to my friends about where they have met their SOs, it is all over the map..grocery store, night school, coffee shop, etc and they also tell me that it basically happened when not expected.

Looking back on my earlier life, I have had 3 mariages and probably 15-20 "relationships" in the past 40 years and that was always the case.

Met my first wife at a dance in college, my second while doing volunteer counciling at a facility for teens and my last geve me a ride home from a Judo/Karate class that I was teaching...and never left. All of the others were just as random and mostly when I wasn't looking.

Don't give up..just don't "obsess"
mike

It's all good advice and all. But I hope nobody takes offense by me saying that women truly are different today.
And Mike, thanks for the replies, but yea I do believe that it's hard as well being almost 60 (wow, :p hehe) but I am becoming bitter about women...sad but I think true. They are so damn picky or should I say superficial. I truly believe that todays women hasn't a clue. They read magazines, watch tv programs and worse, listen to OPRAH. ALL telling them NOT to settle for anything but the best (or perfect).

It's hard enough for a regular guy to live up to their standards, let alone someone that STARTS out far below to begin with.

I can feel my heart breaking at times. It knows that there will be nobody for me. I am 90% ready to give up on women all together. Maybe that's best. It makes me depressed just thinking about it. I believe it's God's will. I am to be alone.

I wish there was another forum here so people can talk about relationships or advice. That would be nice. And I know I have a bad attitude towards women. But they way I am treated (or ignored as a possible friend or mate) it's only a matter of time that this would happen.

The only responses I got from my profile were from 2 women that just wanted to say they lived in my town. 1 from florida! The other stopped e-mailing me for unknowm reasons. AND I keep getting russian women...haha. Guess they think I'm rich.

Maybe I should bullsh*t my profile. Say I'm 6' and lie about my income. That would work.

I'm rambling..and Im done.

-Storm

Hey Storm,

maybe you should post on the general message board where more women are apt to read what you have to say. Who knows, maybe you might start something that could be a help to others.

OK, butting in here on the all male board.....

Storm, I understand your frustration. I feel the same way about today's men. IMHO the ones I meet all want someone tall, thin, blond, athletic, moneyed and without children....and dare I say younger than them. (I'll soon be 54).

Just as I am about to tell you that not all women are vain and shallow, I'm sure someone will tell me not all men are like the ones I've described.

All I can say is make yourself available as much as possible and who knows, lightning may strike.

Best of luck
Crystal

I would have to agree with you, Crystal. remember, Storm, you are going for quality not quanity...and I think that is worth waiting for.

On another subject, Storm, I like your idea of a "singles issues" thread somewhere.
mike

Okay, so I'm going right back to your first post...

When I first met my wife (six years ago) I told her straight away about my AS, although my hand was forced somewhat because I'd just undergone hip replacement surgery and couldn't walk very well (a shambles that was quite possibly exacerbated by alcohol ). Anyway, I figured either she wouldn't care and we could get past it, or she would care and I'd save us both from wasting our time getting to know each other.

Shortly after this, I think I might have actually given her some information sheets regarding AS too (subliminally trying to sabotage things as quickly as possible if it was ever going to happen, but it never did).

AS itself has never really been an issue beyond us needing to find ways of working together to minimise its daily annoyance (as far as I know, at least).