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Why aren't there more men here?
#91438 11/20/07 04:35 PM
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One of the biggest surprises for me has been to realize that most of the posters seem to be women (in the general boards). Why is that? There are far more men with AS than there are women with the disease. But not so many men post, it seems. Are the men too busy working? Not the type to post? Why are the men not more active online here? Any thoughts?


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#91439 11/20/07 05:39 PM
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Men don't share their feelings as much. That said, we are not really men frown


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#91440 11/20/07 07:25 PM
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That's generally true Tadao. Um, what does "we are not really men" connote? Not getting it...


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Re: Why aren't there more men here?
#91441 11/20/07 08:27 PM
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The men posters here have too many feeling to be men. Joking


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#91442 11/21/07 09:20 AM
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I kind of thought the stereotype was that guys were more computer literate and active in posting stuff.


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Yeah, it's funny, I started Spondyville in 1995, and I was surprised, at first, at how many women kept showing up, far more than the ratio of men to women with AS. That was a clue to me, that the thinking at the time about women and AS was off; that there were a lot more of them than was, at the time, predicted. But additionally, I think women do tend to be more willing to openly share their feelings, while some men, wait until they're in a crisis and need an answer. I also think women tend to seek out help more often than men, in the same way men won't ask for directions when driving.

The truly enlightened men, however, like us, are able to be both manly AND sensitive. wink

P.S. I've also noticed the some people join, share, get the support they need, and then leave, only coming back if their current status deteriorates and they have more questions. I suppose that's just the nature of things.


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#91444 11/21/07 04:19 PM
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Perhaps only men who are secure enough in their own masculinity are comfortable with letting their "feminine" side show and actually share and discuss with others in an open forum. Wouldn't that make us MORE "manly"?

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#91445 11/21/07 08:45 PM
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I was joking hehe. Don't get all emotional! Haha

But yeah, I only came here to share when I was to far gone.


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Yes, let's go with the "more manly" theory.


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#91447 11/21/07 10:05 PM
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Beard, check
Tatoo, check
Tough biker image, check
Hot lookin babe, check (wife in my case!!)

Good. Now I can talk about those "things"! laugh


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