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NOTES FROM A THOUGHTFUL HUSBAND
> > >
> > > It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it
> becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as
when
> they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are
> oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.
> > >
> > > My name is Dave. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my
wife,
> Rita. When I took "early retirement" last year, it became necessary for
Rita
> to continue a full-time job, both for extra income and for the health
> benefits that we needed. Shortly after I retired, I noticed she was
> beginning to show her age .
> > >
> > > I usually get home from the golf course about the same time she gets
> home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says
> she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't
> yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when
she
> gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the
> club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub
> when I hit that door.
> > >
> > > She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's
> not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I
> do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening
> that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as
it
> does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
> > >
> > > Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she
will
> say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills
> during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I
just
> smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or
even
> three days. That way she won't have to rush so much.
> > >
> > > I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't
> hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my
> strong points.
> > >
> > > When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest
periods.
> She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I
> try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice,
> big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while.
And,
> as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me
> too.
> > >
> > > I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Rita.
I'm
> not saying that showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will
find
> it difficult. Some will find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do
> how frustrating women can become as they get older. However guys, even if
> you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife
> because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well
> worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other... Dave
> > >
> > > EDITOR'S NOTE: Dave died suddenly Thursday, May 26. He was found with a
Calloway extra-long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II (golf club) rammed up his butt, with only 2 inches of grip showing. His wife Rita was arrested, but the all-woman Grand Jury accepted the explanation of her defense that he accidentally sat down on it very sudden...
She was aquitted!

I am deeply offended by such gratuitous use....of a golf club. lol

Especially a Calloway Big Bertha... HUH? LOL

Nice one, Elf!

THAT WAS GOOD!! AS I WAS READING, I KEPT THINKING TO MYSELF, THIS GUY IS A TOTAL ***!!! WHAT A GOOD WIFE!!

So Elf ,how has your husband been doing lately after you showed him that story??That,s gotta hurt.
Now I remember why I am staying single after 12 years from being divorced.
Best,Mike :p

Fortunatly Mike there is no resemblance to my DH.

Since I've had more trouble with housework, my DH has stepped up and does more all the time. He even laundry. All I had asked him to do was carry his laundry downstairs so I could do it, but he went ahead and does it. The only thing he hates to do is fold t-shirts, I do that.

Cooking and baking is still my thing. I do still love doing it. Last night I made him an apple pie which he adores! Today it's pecan dreams, another fav of his.

He's a gem!

I hafta agree with Irishelf. My DH is a saint. He never complains as he cooks dinner, does the dishes, feeds the horses, mucks their stalls, mows the lawn, buys the groceries, fixes fence, does the laundry, ferries the kids. I, on the other hand mutter about doing the bills, the taxes, my aches and pains, and (work)such. How did I rate a silent generous man who can sing and play the guitar so as to melt the icicles of my cold heart? How can he put up with my wretchedness? A man who would let me buy as many horses as I wanted and then take care of them?
I must have done something nice once... if I can only remember what it was...
Dayna

My husband does not play golf :p